Joyce Marter

” ‘Don’t you like my big boobs?’ said my client to her husband with a playful smile as they sat on my couch in couples therapy. ‘When I look at your breasts now, I think of the baby breastfeeding. That is not a turn-on,’ he responded flatly to his beautiful wife. Her face looked stung … Read more

“I’m a feminist who loves men. Not only do I appreciate the beauty of the male physique and the intoxicating power of masculine energy–I value the ways in which men process emotions, relationships, and life differently than women. I’ve had the deep honor and privilege of counseling hundreds of men (if not more) over the … Read more

“1. Smile. Put a smile on your face and in your eyes, voice and heart as often as possible. 2. Make eye contact. Look people openly, warmly and squarely in the eye. 3. Open your body language. While facing the person with whom you are talking, open your chest, your heart and your arms.”   … Read more

“Many people come into therapy wanting the perfect job, relationship, body or lifestyle that they believe will bring them happiness. This is a normal response to living in a consumer-based culture that tells us we need these things. However, when we look to externals to measure our worth, enough is never enough. This is because … Read more

“Oh, the powerful wisdom that comes from the mouths of babes… If we pay attention, children can remind us of the important aspects of life that many of us have forgotten. I had the honor of spending some quality time alone with my 8-year-old daughter, Claudia, today. The following are the life lessons of which … Read more

“To me, laughter is a non-sexual orgasm. My mind, body and spirit are tickled, sending waves of euphoria that reverberate throughout me. All that is negative is converted into positive waves of light and love. I greatly value the healing and connecting properties of laughter. Every so often (and twice last night,) I’ve been awoken … Read more

“Well, you two certainly have a very resilient relationship!’ our marital therapist exclaimed to my husband and me several years ago, with obvious surprise and relief detectable in her face and her voice. She was responding to our report that we had nicely recovered from our Armageddon conflict from the week prior and were in … Read more

“Life is a miraculous gift. Yet, as many of us move through time, we seem to have forgotten. We’ve grown weary, disconnected, distracted or detached. We’ve lost our connection with our inner fire — our unique experience of being alive and belonging in a greater sense to others, and the world around us. Over the … Read more