Joyce Marter Quoted In Psych Central Article: Unearthing & Ridding Yourself Of Toxic Shame
“Shame is inexorably tied to the question that many of us will eventually ask ourselves: ‘Are we a human doing or a human being?’
In other words, is our value and appreciation for and about ourselves determined by what we do (and how it affects others) or just by who we are?
Human doers live their lives chasing the proverbial carrot, which is unattainable. Because core shame is maintained from the inside, no amount of ‘carrots’ will ever relieve a person of it. It is simply impossible to reach a goal that is neither possible nor realistic. Self-worth determined by what we do is not life-affirming, nor is it personally and emotionally sustaining. We can never do ;good’ enough to free us from the shackles of low self-esteem, self-doubt and insecurity.”