According to the Workplace Bullying Institute, more than a quarter of Americans have been the target of workplace bullying.
SIGNS
How do you spot a workplace bully ?
- Threatening, humiliating or intimidating behaviors (i.e. getting up in somebodyās personal space, blocking them from moving through an entry, or a practical joke designed to embarrass, etc. )
- Verbal abuse (cruel comments and teasing—language to undermine somebodyās dignity in a sudden or repeated manner—like a boss that called his team, āmorons who couldnāt get a job anywhere elseā.)
- Interference with oneās ability to work (for example, withholding resources—like the password to login to a database, or the keys to the work truck)
- Cyberbullying, malicious gossip and spreading rumor are also bullying behaviors
- Bullying may be covert or subtle
- Unlike harassment, bullying is not illegal. Harassment is unwelcome conduct that is based on race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information.
PREVENTION
- Communicate assertively
- Donāt be passive (doormat), aggressive (like the bully) or passive-aggressive (getting back at the person through indirect behaviors)
- Use I statements and make clear and direct requests
- Set healthy limits and boundaries (i.e. by saying, ānoā, or āthis isnāt okayā)
- Get support
- From friends, family, therapist, colleagues, boss, or HR
- Develop a plan
- Ask your employer to take action (hand the problem up to the person who can resolve it, focus on the bottom line–too expensive to keep the bully –be ready to leave your job if necessary)