Psychology Today: Are Your Mother’s Money Beliefs Making You Buy Ugly Shoes?
Outlet: Psychology Today
After trying to address her thoughts and feelings about money in therapy for a few weeks, my client Jasmine came into session excited to share her new revelation. “My mother’s relationship with money is making me buy ugly shoes!!”
“How?” I asked curiously, with a smile. Jasmine replied, “Mom’s always been so cheap. She drilled into me that spending more than you need to on items was wasteful and bad. So I have a closet filled with inexpensive, ugly shoes, none of which I like or feel good about myself when wearing. I experience guilt and shame for spending lots of money filling my closet with items I don’t like.”