Joyce Marter, LCPC, is a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years experience, the Chair-Elect of the Midwest Region of the American Counseling Association, a clinical consultant at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, a speaker and blogger for the Huffington Post & PsychCentral, and regular contributor to the media on matters of psychology, relationships, career and wellness.
“Unhappiness can occur when people are not living their lives in a way that is congruent with their authentic selves. This is what I have learned after providing psychotherapy to a diverse clientele for over 20 years. Also, I’ve noticed many people get stuck on the proverbial ‘hamster wheel’ of life–an endless cycle of work
“Large and rapidly moving, ominous clouds of negativity roll into my mind, infuse my thoughts and deeply darken my mood. As I exhale, I feel the irritability fume from my nostrils like fiery smoke from a dragon’s. As I bristle with defensiveness and hostility, I feel the energetic spikes of anger jet from my spine,
“Over the past 20 years of working as a psychotherapist, I have been awed and inspired by the fierce courage of my clients. I’ve been honored to accompany them on their journeys as they have tapped into their power and emancipated themselves from abusive and toxic relationships, oppressive religious and cultural practices, exploitative or meaningless
“Electric shivers of euphoria ripple throughout her naked body. The summer breeze encircles the lovers, intensifying the deeply arousing sensation of the wetness on her nipples from his passionate kisses. She gazes into his yearning eyes, effortlessly accessing the opening to his soul and harnessing the power of their profound connection. The rhythm of their
“Through my personal experiences of love and loss, and through 20 years of counseling countless clients through theirs, I have learned the following truths: 1) Life is truly a gift. We’re probably all guilty at times of viewing time as an obstacle we need to hunker down and get through (e.g., “Isn’t it the end