“Fear and anxiety are two of the most paralyzing emotions and can literally bring your life to a screeching halt. The simplest example I can think of is when I see a centipede. I usually stop, scream and run in the opposite direction. I refuse to go into the room where the centipede is until someone else goes and kills it. If it gets away, that room is off limits for a few hours. It does not matter if I need something in that room or have to take another route to get to another room. I let that little centipede (with all those legs!) stop me from doing what I wanted or needed to do.
Fear caused by trauma, failure, rejection and loss in our lives can do the same thing on a much larger scale. It manifests as anxiety, which may make us avoid someone. It may make us sabotage wonderful opportunities that come our way. We start to believe we are unworthy of success, unable to make a good decision or achieve happiness. We develop a psychic ability to know the future is doomed without any knowledge of the future. Fear takes over and overwhelms us, putting us in survival mode. Under duress, not trusting our ability to do anything, we ultimately make really bad decisions or simply stop making them. We lie to others because we know they won’t like us if they really know us. All of this snowballs, leading to more distress, despair and psychological paralysis. Life stops moving forward.
For many people, anxiety is a serious psychological problem that includes physical symptoms such as shortness of breath or panicking. Different situations trigger it. It is critical that you consider therapy and medication. Psychiatrists and psychologists can help you understand the root causes of your anxiety and help you develop the tools needed to manage it.”